In response to "Lesbian chic" from two days ago, a commenter said:
"Speaking as a woman, I can always tell the masculine partner with my gaydar, but not the female one.....The former never like me for some reason. I think they see me as a threat, even though I have no interest in their partners."
I was surprised to hear that from a woman, since I had assumed lesbian resentment was aimed strictly at men. Before I can even open my mouth I sometimes sense that they're brimming over with hostility towards me.
I'm never sure exactly why this is so. Do they hate all men? Do they hate me simply because they assume that I'll dislike them because they're lesbians? Have I somehow communicated distaste for them? Do they resent me because they see me as the type of guy who never expressed any interest in them when they were in high school? Do they see me as competition?
If they hate me simply because I'm a guy, is it an instinctive competitive hatred or is it a result of all the propaganda they've imbibed about our patriarchal society?
One of the striking things about this animosity is that it seems to be expressed most strongly by the same set of women who decry sexism with great bitterness. They assume that all males dislike and look down upon females simply because they're females. Yet they do the exact same thing to males, and they do it far more overtly.
I've never known a guy who automatically stuck up for all men over all women, in every situation, no matter who was at fault. Yet I seem to have known a fair number of women who will just automatically side with a woman over a man in every single case, even when the woman involved is an obvious sociopath.
You might almost call their attitude sexist.