Two recent commenters, after the post "Jacked," mentioned that female victims of abuse often invite that abuse.
Glen Filthie said:
A cop friend summed up domestic abuse beautifully, as far as I am concerned. He says, and I quote almost verbatim - that domestic violence is almost always a case of two idiots fighting, and the smaller or weaker idiot losing.
Having been 'volunteered' for charity work at the local battered women's shelter on occasion - I wholeheartedly agree. 99% of those 'abused women' are anything but victims.
And Andrew said:
I recently spoke to girl who worked at a battered women's shelter and she said exactly this:
"After half a day working there I wanted to go and get drunk and beat the shit out of them."
It's generally considered grounds for banishment from public life to even broach the possibility that some victims of violence might somehow bring it upon themselves. And this post is certainly not a brief in favor of violence, no matter the circumstance. But these commenters (and the people they quoted) did have a valid point: certain people are more likely to provoke rage than others.
Every case is different, but it seems a reasonable conclusion that narcissists and sociopaths provoke more anger than most. Ergo, narcissists and sociopaths are more likely to be victims of violence, and not just domestic violence.
We are all angered the the same types of behavior: hypocrisy, selfishness, and dishonesty. And those character traits cluster among the same people: narcissists and sociopaths. Think of the person you've most wanted to hit. Wouldn't most people feel the same way about him (or her)?
Most of us don't get violent, but those with fewer inhibitions might. (Those with fewer inhibitions tend to be sociopaths themselves, which is why two sociopaths, or even two narcissists, are often a combustible mix.)
Agatha Christie understood sociopaths extremely well, even though the term hadn't yet entered the psychological jargon during her era. In fact, she based Murder on the Orient Express on this premise. When detective Hercule Poirot arrives on the scene to find out who had killed the murder victim, he found that every single person on the train but one had motive, since all had some connection to the three-year-old girl the victim himself had murdered.
(In the end, Hercule Poirot and his friend who runs the railroad decide to attribute the murder to an unknown stranger who boarded and left the train undetected.)
I'm certainly not suggesting all victims of violence invite their fates. Many are just normal people who are victimized by sociopaths.
But it would be surprising if a disproportionate percentage weren't narcissists or even sociopaths themselves.