tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794535954827182754.post5397021811886182441..comments2024-02-17T04:06:00.805-05:00Comments on Just Not Said: Success - Looks = IntelligenceJohn Craighttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08729625146043379286noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794535954827182754.post-4226451035930861322017-05-04T05:13:44.826-04:002017-05-04T05:13:44.826-04:00Ga --
That's an awfully broad question, but in...Ga --<br />That's an awfully broad question, but in general, I'd just say, people should do what suits them. The one piece of advice I'd give is, before you get married, discuss ahead of time what each of you expects from the other in terms of work, money, and number of kids. John Craighttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08729625146043379286noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794535954827182754.post-72664726170748839222017-05-04T05:00:26.268-04:002017-05-04T05:00:26.268-04:00John, Do you have any opinions on roles in marriag...John, Do you have any opinions on roles in marriage? <br /><br />-GaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794535954827182754.post-32468747181533165762017-05-03T07:39:59.829-04:002017-05-03T07:39:59.829-04:00Ga --
Interesting point about how the divorce rate...Ga --<br />Interesting point about how the divorce rate is low when the spouses hardly ever see each other. <br /><br />The way you describe Asian marriage sounds like a great deal for the women, not so much for the men. Not that it's all that different in the US, in many cases. John Craighttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08729625146043379286noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794535954827182754.post-49061980036838189212017-05-03T04:45:32.615-04:002017-05-03T04:45:32.615-04:00Maybe he can tolerate an aspie wife because of his...Maybe he can tolerate an aspie wife because of his wealth? (I don't know who he is though, could be wrong.) In Hong Kong, even with a normal wife in wealthy couples and even middle class ones, even if both partners are neurotypical, there is a similar situation that may be going on with him (or not, I don't want to assume.). And the wife has even fewer responsibilities if there is enough money, so she won't have any opportunity to compromise what they think is a good marriage, the domestic helpers (that's what the government here calls them) in Hong Kong keep all things ordered and cook and clean.<br /><br /> In Asian society, the husband has to fulfill the traditional needs of buying flowers or gifts expected from their princess and being a gentleman, but they aren't to expect the same from the woman other than dinner, which she may not even cook, when he gets home before going to bed and sex (if he even has enough energy left, and the view among some is the man is having the sex with the woman who allows it, a woman doing anything sounds to them like "acting too much like a man in bed". So no sex if "he" is too tired)<br />Does this guy have similar expectations of his marriage being like this? <br /><br />I also hear in Japan that a women stops working once she gets married. I sometimes suspect this is why the divorce rate in Japan is so low. The spouses rarely have any conflict or arguments...because they hardly ever see each other. One is working 6 times a week 14 hours a day and stuck in the bedroom sleeping all day on Sunday, the other is meeting her friends at a girly cafe, going to a bookclub, cleaning the house, and cooking dinner 7 days a week, you can't have an unhappy marriage if there is almost no marriage. If he is practically not in a marriage, well yeah.<br /><br />-GaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794535954827182754.post-84397907134804564412017-05-02T15:35:40.628-04:002017-05-02T15:35:40.628-04:00Gethin --
I've probably said too much already...Gethin --<br />I've probably said too much already. If you send me your email address -- which I promise not to post -- I'll explain.John Craighttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08729625146043379286noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794535954827182754.post-48118118903814928352017-05-02T14:30:04.338-04:002017-05-02T14:30:04.338-04:00How do you know that she definitely has Aspeger...How do you know that she definitely has Aspeger's? What's the giveaway?<br /><br />- GethinAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com