tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794535954827182754.post7065302888130955745..comments2024-02-17T04:06:00.805-05:00Comments on Just Not Said: How sociopaths keep you off balanceJohn Craighttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08729625146043379286noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794535954827182754.post-66523115477158958862018-08-09T17:16:29.089-04:002018-08-09T17:16:29.089-04:00Anon --
Thank your that excellent description of h...Anon --<br />Thank your that excellent description of how a stalker operates. <br /><br />Yes, it's true that it's easy to mistake one disorder for another. I've made that mistake twice (that I know of), thinking that people with Borderline Personality Disorder were sociopaths. Once I got to understand BPD, I realized, in retrospect, that they were not sociopaths. <br /><br />And yes, sociopaths can make your life hell. The advantage they have over the rest of us is that they are utterly shameless and utterly dishonest (the two traits are closely related) and while we restrict ourselves to telling the truth about them, they will tell all sorts of lies about us, and do so in often diabolically clever and plausible ways. They'll even tell others that we've been talking trash about them (the others) when we haven't. I've had that experience with two sociopaths. <br /><br />True enough about social media. John Craighttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08729625146043379286noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794535954827182754.post-3626657061179598632018-08-09T14:20:12.339-04:002018-08-09T14:20:12.339-04:00I think the official percentages are probably corr...I think the official percentages are probably correct more or less. There's a lot of personality disorders which are similar, extremely stressed and depressed people can behave like sociopaths and the disordered make a big splash, get around more, meet more people, etc.<br /><br />Social media is a big problem too. Five months after me and my friends got on Facebook I had acquired a stalker and couldn't keep her out of my life.<br /><br />One day I went to a gathering at a friends house and there she was. She said "I'm XXX's friend and I'm so glad he decided to make me part of his life!" She crouched down and jumped up and some of my friends cheered.<br /><br />I pulled some of my friends aside and told them "She's not my friend. She's a violent stalker. I'm afraid of her. I think she wants to batter me."<br /><br />Saying this didn't do me any favors. She had already been spending months telling all of my friends (no privacy settings in those days) about our wonderful relationship. She's had thousands of conversations about me since. Ultimately I had to leave that social circle because of a years long smear campaign.<br /><br />I always saw through her and most people do but there's always a few people who are cult followers and those people are key people in the social circle and outnumber me.<br /><br />You talk about duping delight. I would see a lot of that, often the display was conspicous but only for me. Sometimes she'd put her head in the small of someone's back and make a face at me in such a way that nobody else in the room could see it.<br /><br />When I first met her she convinced me that she was some extraordinary scientist or science nerd. She actively maintained that deception for three "dates" but it eventually fell apart because I was genuinely interested in her views on science. She managed to fake it up to a point by saying vague and profound things. But eventually she tripped up and I realized that it was all fake and then refused to see her again. <br /><br />I've always found it odd that she would fixate on somebody who didn't like her and could see right through her. I couldn't understand why she was pursuing me and eventually I came to believe the innocent explanation she was repeating to me endlessly.<br /><br />Eventually she took my life apart with a smear campaign and violent stalking that went on for years. I still have painful encounters from people she manipulates and sends my way nearly five years after no contact. I never had much contact with her.<br /><br />To anyone who is still reading this and can empathize with what I'm saying. I highly recommend deactivating your social media accounts (you can always reactivate them later). The damage being done to your life is incalculable and invisible. The privacy settings on social media are easier to circumvent than you might think. Facebook Events for example is largely public and is full of untagged photos (so your blocks won't work). So it doesn't take any hacking for a stalker to get a photographic record of your life. <br /><br />But more importantly social media creates a different social reality, something more plastic, more malleable in the hand of bad actors. I think a lot of the complaints/awareness of increased sociopathic activity in recent years is largely due to social media empowering these people with a longer reach. Being a sociopath is hard work and fraught with risk. Stalking used to be time consuming and dangerous (exposure was a near certainty) for the stalker now it's largely risk free and as easy (the other person won't know you're doing it).Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794535954827182754.post-8977669502402736152017-05-07T16:37:53.429-04:002017-05-07T16:37:53.429-04:00Birdie --
That would be nice. Birdie --<br />That would be nice. John Craighttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08729625146043379286noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794535954827182754.post-6242080476081823602017-05-07T16:15:55.010-04:002017-05-07T16:15:55.010-04:00My dream is for all sociopaths to be abducted by a...My dream is for all sociopaths to be abducted by aliens or to disappear by spontaneous combustion, leaving the rest of humanity in relative peace.<br /><br />- birdieAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794535954827182754.post-85835054084156232872017-05-07T05:37:44.257-04:002017-05-07T05:37:44.257-04:00FAKE BABA --
Thank you. (Though I don't think ...FAKE BABA --<br />Thank you. (Though I don't think I'd be drawn to a bar called "The Snake's Elbow.")John Craighttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08729625146043379286noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794535954827182754.post-6815100281112263552017-05-07T02:57:03.667-04:002017-05-07T02:57:03.667-04:00this is a really good post
"telegraphing the...this is a really good post<br /><br />"telegraphing the punches" is a good psychopath tell, I would say sometimes it is not a slip but rather part of the dance, a style point ("NO I AM NOT A SNAKE ABOUT TO EAT YOU" = just hamming it up for all of the other imaginary snakes in the audience elbowing each other and saying YOU SEE THAT, VERN? THIS IS GOOD STUFF (I know, snakes don't have elbows, that would be a good name for a bar THE SNAKE'S ELBOW))<br /><br />"People DO tend to assume other people are like them. So decent people will automatically make the baseline assumption that others are decent, and sociopaths will always suspect the worst of everybody." is 100% correct.<br /><br />a whole bunch of other good stuff in this post<br /><br />====FAKE BABAAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com