I was looking at the weddings section of the NY Times yesterday morning when I stumbled across this couple, Andrew Borchini (on the left), and John Scott Johnson:
The fellow on the left is wearing an expression that you simply never see on straight guys. It seems to say "I'm just overjoyed to be here!" and "It's so incredibly wonderful to see you!" He seems to have a wellspring of deep inner bliss, and his bedrock assumption about the world appears to be, "It's filled with amazing people and it's just so great to be alive!"
Mr. Borchini looks like a genuinely nice person -- I'm not being sarcastic here -- the kind it would be pleasant to be around. He looks reasonable, accommodating, and gracious. (I'm also guessing -- obviously, everything I'm saying here is purely a guess -- that he might be just a touch naive.)
It's an expression you occasionally see at parties, maybe after someone has had a drink or two.
Coincidentally, yesterday's Times also had announcement for another pair of gay men, Christopher Beacham (left) and Adam Scott:
I was struck by Adam Scott's similar expression. Again, I know nothing about him, but he seems to exhibit similar qualities to Mr. Borchini.
Six years ago I said that the gay men I saw at Club Med seemed to come in "four main flavors." I'm guessing that Andrew Borchini and Adam Scott would fall into the "extremely helpful" category.
Here's what I said about that type at the time:
The third flavor might be described as "extremely helpful." It's impossible not to find these guys pleasant to be around. They're always cheerful, always polite, always friendly, and always understanding. While they tend to be a little effeminate, they're not drama queens or weird like transvestites. They're just....nice. They remind me of the vivacious hostess at a suburban party who's always making sure everyone is comfortable and has a fresh drink: a little phony maybe, but hard not to like.
I salute Mr. Borchini and Mr. Scott. The world definitely needs more people who are both better-natured and less critical than I am.