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Sunday, February 28, 2010

Interview with a rebel

This interview with my son appeared in the local paper two days ago:

http://www.wiltonvillager.com/story/482728

The writer, John Nash was kind. He inserted a "(laughs)" after a particularly harsh comment to make it sound as if Johnny had been joking, when in fact I don't think he was.

In any case, no one could read this interview and conclude anything other than, that's a rebellious kid. (They'd be right.) Johnny certainly never developed any enthusiasm for the family sport of swimming. But other than that, most of his rebellion is directed against his classmates.

Johnny has told me in the past, "If I have to listen to one more girl talk about what pair of pants she's going to buy next, or how her parents don't give her enough money, I'm going to throw up." On another occasion, he said, "These kids who go to high school parties are so stupid. After they get drunk, all they want to talk about is how drunk they are. What's the point of getting drunk if you're not going to talk about something interesting? These parties are incredibly boring."

Johnny will also occasionally relate the idiocies of his liberal teachers.

For him, the grass has been greener not only on other side of fence, but waaaaay over on the other side -- perhaps all the way down South. Johnny seems to want to identify with rednecks who drop out of school and live in trailers and get in fights and join the army. Of course, he's never really known any of them, which probably has something to do with why he finds them appealing.

My own psychology is not dissimilar. I was sent to a private school, Commonwealth (located on the avenue of that name in Boston.) The school was founded and run by Charles Merrill, who was the son of the original founder of Merrill Lynch. Merrill was stereotypical second generation wealth, growing up with a guilt complex as well as the money. To assuage his guilt, he founded this school.

It was the type of place where people prided themselves on being "open-minded" but were in fact just the opposite. The school conducted a poll in the fall of 1968 to see which Presidential candidate the students favored. Out of the student body of 120, fully 119 supported Hubert Humphrey. I often heard these students talk about what "courage" it took to mouth the liberal platitudes they would recite. In fact the only student at this school who showed any bravery was the one who risked censure by favoring Nixon.

It's hard to come out of a place like that with anything but a visceral disgust for liberals. But I sometimes think that had I been brought up in Alabama, amidst all those hayseeds Johnny finds appealing, I might have grown up to become a liberal, instead of a libertarian. Who knows, Johnny might have too.

9 comments:

Anonymous said...

"Johnny seems to want to identify with rednecks who drop out of school and live in trailers and get in fights and join the army. Of course, he's never really known any of them, which probably has something to do with why he finds them appealing."

I'm sure you're exactly correct in your assessment here. Having gone to high school with many southern rednecks, I can vouch for the fact that your son would not want to be anything like them. If he knew any of them personally he would likely be as put off by their opinions and behavior as he is by those of his wealthy and more priviledged classmates. Be glad though that your son seems to be thinking for himself rather than being led by the group. A willingness to associate or even identify with those that are different is an admirable trait.

Anonymous said...

Just read the interview. Actually I found it entertaining and not rebellious at all. Seems like a normal kid to me. Just doesn't want to swim and doesn't care for organized education.

John Craig said...

Anonymous --
Thank you for your comments and your praise for Johnny. Yes, he definitely thinks for himself, and I admire him for that. And signing up for the infantry takes a lot of courage. And thanks re: the interview, yes, he has a sense of humor and the fact that he participated in the family sport reluctantly is certainly no knock on him. I'm grateful he did it at all.

Steven said...

The link is dead for me but I read it in the past. Most people, when they get interviewed, give answers that they think the interviewer wants to hear to some extent. Not Johnny. He seemed pretty immune to bullshitting in that interview, which is cool.

John Craig said...

Steven --
Thank you. And yes, he's not a bs-er. And you're right, 99% of these interviews, the interviewees will say whatever it is they think they're supposed to say.

Steven said...

btw was that poll anonymous and did they ever find out who chose Nixon? ;-)

John Craig said...

Steven --
It was known that it was a guy named Frank, can't remember his last name, who was a senior. He must have hated that place more than I did.

Steven said...

So did you vote in the poll or what? were you not a conservative at that age?

John Craig said...

Steven --
I was in ninth grade, 14 years old at the time of the poll. I must have voted for Humphrey. At 14 I think I did pretty much what was expected of me.